Over the last few weeks, as I get ready for work in the morning, I’ve been watching episodes of Stargate Atlantis. (Seriously, one of my favourite shows. They could’ve done so much more with it.) And so, because it and it’s actors are on my mind, this month’s quote comes from one of its leads.
Learning what you don’t want to do is pretty valuable, it may be as valuable as figuring out what it is you do want to do. – Joe Flanigan
Life’s all about the journey. Sometimes, I envy those people who knew what they wanted to do with their lives from a young age because I still don’t really know what I want to do. However, I’ve learnt a lot by trying different kinds of jobs and taking different paths – a lot about myself and a lot about the world. I’m grateful for those lessons and while sometimes I wish I knew where ‘I’m supposed to be’, I really enjoy listening to people who’ve had a hand at many different kinds of things. Their lives sound full and well lived, and that’s what I want for myself.
This month’s QotM comes from what is probably my favourite Disney song.
No, it’s not Let it Go from Frozen.
Pocahontas was one of my favourite Disney movies growing up, and I loved Colours of the Wind. I believe the song still holds many truths and words of wisdom.
You think the only people who are people
Are the people who look and think like you
But if you walked the foot steps of a stranger
You’ll learn things you never knew, you never knew
During this part of the movie Pocahontas is trying to teach John to expand his horizons and try to look at the world from other points of view. This is something everyone needs to do, and to do often.
It’s easy to judge people when you don’t know their whole story, to judge someone based on their religion, customs, style of dress, gender, or the colour of their skin.
I strongly believe we should all expose our selves to other cultures, customs and languages. We should be open to learning about the history of other peoples and walk a mile in their shoes because that leads to understanding and kindness and that leads to peace.
I’ll leave you with a YouTube clip of Colours of the Wind in 28 languages.
“Looking for happiness is a sure way to sadness, I think. You have to take each moment as it comes.” – Benedict Cumberbatch
This month’s QotM is something I’ve often thought and tried to explain to people.
It’s those thoughts that I still catch myself thinking every so often.
When I find someone to settle down with, I’ll be happy.
When I get a promotion, I’ll be happy.
When I buy my own house, I’ll be happy.
When I have kids, I’ll be happy.
And so on.
You could spend your whole life seeking these things and never find them –never find the right person to marry, or you do, but it ends badly after years of marriage. Maybe you never end up having kids or maybe something happens and the career you thought you were going to have disappears.
We’re all looking for our happily ever after, like at the end of all the fairytales. But life is about the journey. It’s the things that happen a long the way, and it’s important to enjoy it. You don’t actually need those things to be happy.
We need to stop and smell the roses. If you don’t learn to be happy with what you have right now, you won’t be happy when you get that marriage, or that child, or that promotion, and you’ll wonder why.
If you want to be happy, be happy.
I left this for the last minute again and since at the last minute my friend, Bob, passed away, I’ve made this post about him.
Goodbyes are only for those who love with their eyes, because for those who love with their heart and soul, there is no separation. – Rumi
I had only known Bob for a handful of years, but it feels like a life time. He was such a kind and gentle man. He would often tell me how he thought of me as family and I very much felt the same.
I would go over to their place for the day to visit and share a meal and he would always tell the most interesting stories about growing up in rural Saskatchewan or his time working as a Social Worker. He had a quick wit and was always ready with an amazing pun.
He was an avid photographer and would love to take walks along country roads, snapping some amazing shots of the country side.
Though he is no longer with us on this Earth, his love, compassion, words of wisdom, and kindness will be with me forever. I am glad of the time I was fortunate to have spent with him.
Bob, I hope you’re at peace, maybe sharing your wonderful sense of humour with God.
See you on the other side of the barely field. ❤
One of the last pictures Bob sent me. Fields and grain elevators held a special place in his heart.
This month, a friend of mine, who is a Stage Manager/ Actor/Writer/Awesome Person, will be performing a play she wrote at the Fringe Festival and I’m very much looking forward to going. So, in honour of that, I’ve chosen a quote from William Shakespeare:
How far that little candle throws his beams. So shines a good deed in a weary world.
I witnessed a small bit of brightness due to the kindness of people just the other day.
A couple with a small child were in the process of buying a vehicle. The agent at the dealership knowingly set them up to pay more than they should have and they were understandably upset. The mother was the loudest in her displeasure and when her child asked to go for ice cream after, she replied with “we can’t afford ice cream!” This, of course, sent the child to tears.
As I sat there, watching this entire thing unfold, wondering how anyone, even when so angry, could say something like that to their child, knowing it would only cause them to cry, a random stranger gave the father a $20 bill and said “you’re having a bad day, go for ice cream.” The mother began to cry.
I would like to think that they went for ice cream and had a nice little family moment. That stranger didn’t have to give them anything. He could have just sat there, appalled at the way the mother was treating her child… like I did.
I was immediately struck by the juxtaposition.
We should all try to be a little more kind in our day to day lives.
This month’s QotM is short and sweet.
Don’t hide yourself in regret. Just love yourself and you’re set. Lady Gaga – Born This Way
Too often too many people put too much stock in what other people think about them. They worry about the size of their body, breasts and pores. They worry about being criticized for the clothes they wear and how they do their hair. The things they like or are passionate about.
This quote helps to remind me to not take other people’s judgments and opinions to heart. My self worth is not determined by other people, but by what I think of myself. And I am not defined by my breast size or weight or whatever other arbitrary thing someone may judge me on.
I love me for me. I hope you can love you for you.
Quick note before we start: Due to technical difficulties I was unable to post a Quote of the Month for May. (Read: I put it off for too long and then got bogged down with so much other stuff that I was unable to finish anything in time for May 1st. I, then, had every intention to write something and just be a bit late, but that didn’t happen either…)
Sorry about that. QotM will now resume it’s regularly scheduled postings.
This month’s quote comes from Sherlock – Episode 1 – A Study in Pink
Have you ever felt like you weren’t normal? If the things you do or don’t do are ok? I have.
“It’s all fine.” – John Watson
The quote I’ve picked this month is from episode #52, “Have We Met?” from the machinima, Red vs. Blue.
During the episode, Church tries to right wrongs and save everyone from an explody death. After things don’t exactly go his way, he has the following conversation with friends:
Church: I learned a very valuable lesson in my travels. No matter how bad things might seem…
Caboose: They could be worse.
Church: Nope. No matter how bad they seem, they can’t be any better, and they can’t be any worse, because that’s the way things f***ing are, and you better get used to it, Nancy. Quit yer bitching.
So I raise a morphine toast to you. And, should you remember that it’s the anniversary of my birth, remember that you were loved by me and you made my life a happy one. And there’s no tragedy in that.
This month I chose a quote from a movie that means a lot to me.
This month I’ve chosen a quote from the first episode of the HBO series, True Detective.
In the episode, Detectives Marty Hart and Rust Cohle have been partners only a few months when they begin investigating a strange murder case. In order to get to know his new partner, Marty asks Rust a few questions about his life. Rust’s answers are so strange and unnerving, Marty asks Rust to stop talking like that.
Given how long it’s taken for me to reconcile my nature, I can’t figure I’d forgo it on your account, Marty.
I really liked this quote because it sums up everything I’ve been thinking about over the last month rather nicely.