“Looking for happiness is a sure way to sadness, I think. You have to take each moment as it comes.” – Benedict Cumberbatch
This month’s QotM is something I’ve often thought and tried to explain to people.
It’s those thoughts that I still catch myself thinking every so often.
When I find someone to settle down with, I’ll be happy.
When I get a promotion, I’ll be happy.
When I buy my own house, I’ll be happy.
When I have kids, I’ll be happy.
And so on.
You could spend your whole life seeking these things and never find them –never find the right person to marry, or you do, but it ends badly after years of marriage. Maybe you never end up having kids or maybe something happens and the career you thought you were going to have disappears.
We’re all looking for our happily ever after, like at the end of all the fairytales. But life is about the journey. It’s the things that happen a long the way, and it’s important to enjoy it. You don’t actually need those things to be happy.
We need to stop and smell the roses. If you don’t learn to be happy with what you have right now, you won’t be happy when you get that marriage, or that child, or that promotion, and you’ll wonder why.
If you want to be happy, be happy.