Quote of the Month – October 2014

“Looking for happiness is a sure way to sadness, I think. You have to take each moment as it comes.” – Benedict Cumberbatch

This month’s QotM is something I’ve often thought and tried to explain to people.

It’s those thoughts that I still catch myself thinking every so often.

When I find someone to settle down with, I’ll be happy.
When I get a promotion, I’ll be happy.
When I buy my own house, I’ll be happy.
When I have kids, I’ll be happy.

And so on.

You could spend your whole life seeking these things and never find them –never find the right person to marry, or you do, but it ends badly after years of marriage. Maybe you never end up having kids or maybe something happens and the career you thought you were going to have disappears.

We’re all looking for our happily ever after, like at the end of all the fairytales. But life is about the journey. It’s the things that happen a long the way, and it’s important to enjoy it. You don’t actually need those things to be happy.

We need to stop and smell the roses. If you don’t learn to be happy with what you have right now, you won’t be happy when you get that marriage, or that child, or that promotion, and you’ll wonder why.

If you want to be happy, be happy.



Wanted: Self Confidence (A Mini Rant)

Is this normal?

Or is there something wrong with me?

I get ideas for things I want to do: an idea for a post, an idea for a painting, an idea on organizing my sock drawer that’s more practical or efficient.


I formulate a plan of attack and begin. Shortly after starting, I begin to wonder if there’s a better way of doing this thing. I return to the drawing board, formulate a new plan and begin again. As this goes on and on, I lose confidence in myself and the enthusiasm I had for my original idea. Eventually, I wonder if this thing I was going to do is even worth doing anymore. Then, I give up.

Why am I like this?
When did I get like this?

Most importantly: how do I stop doing this?
Because I really don’t like this part of myself.
This shite needs to change.

I miss my self-confidence and get-her-done attitude.
I miss my stamina.
I’m tired of giving up on everything!

I need to stop changing my mind.
I need to stop seconding guessing myself.
I need to stop worrying what other people are going to think.

I need to just do!!

Yes, I second guessed myself all the way through writing this and thought about not posting it.
If you’re reading this, I managed to click the Publish button.
Well, bully for me!